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My OH has said to me that if we have to rehome Barley it would be because of me. Because 'l can't cope'. That if he had a choice, he'd do it all. But he can't because of his job but he said that if he were retired, he would basically give up all of his time to Barley, at least through the puppy and adolescent stages. I feel inadequate and guilty and tired.
I confess, I do not wish to spend my entire day running around/supervising a puppy. I want to be able to do other things, want to be able to work, projects and to relax. I don't think that makes me a bad person. But obviously he must be a saint as he would sacrifice all for the puppy.
But the OH just says to me; Well, what have you been doing all day to not stimulate him/play with him/train him/take him out to socialise him? What is more important?
I know this is a dog forum and not couples counselling! But I feel like Ive just gone back in time where the hubby comes home from work and the wife is exhausted from looking after the baby and the husband says; well why? What have you been doing all day?!
It is having an impact on my physical and mental health. I am drained. OH has more energy than me and doesn't ordinarily get up as early as me. He also doesn't have anxiety and related problems that I have.
Barley does get more rest now in his crate and he is a little more settled than he was. But I am still struggling.
But we have a new trainer now that I will be doing one to one with, for a month, so I can't just give up.
I confess, I do not wish to spend my entire day running around/supervising a puppy. I want to be able to do other things, want to be able to work, projects and to relax. I don't think that makes me a bad person. But obviously he must be a saint as he would sacrifice all for the puppy.
But the OH just says to me; Well, what have you been doing all day to not stimulate him/play with him/train him/take him out to socialise him? What is more important?
I know this is a dog forum and not couples counselling! But I feel like Ive just gone back in time where the hubby comes home from work and the wife is exhausted from looking after the baby and the husband says; well why? What have you been doing all day?!
It is having an impact on my physical and mental health. I am drained. OH has more energy than me and doesn't ordinarily get up as early as me. He also doesn't have anxiety and related problems that I have.
Barley does get more rest now in his crate and he is a little more settled than he was. But I am still struggling.
But we have a new trainer now that I will be doing one to one with, for a month, so I can't just give up.