Hi everyone All the dogs in my life to this point have been very gregarious and engaged. My wife and I are looking at adopting a 1 year old shelter dog whose background we know nothing about. She's very timid - which is why I'm a little lost. Let's call her "M". We first met Friday a week ago. The shelter is open for 2 hours at a time on Fri, Sat and Sun. We went all three days last week. I was there yesterday (wife had to be elsewhere) and we were there again today (and will go tomorrow). I feel we've made some big steps. M went from avoiding us last Friday to taking treats from our hands on the Sunday. Yesterday I got to give her chest a rub and scratch her ears, today, she let me rub her belly, scratch her back and her head and ear again. All of this was treat based. My wife was able to physically touch her today too. There are three other dogs in there with M - all arrived in the same 'batch' from Bulgaria (I'm in Germany). This is their second week there. What we were wondering is how we can eventually go from food motivated behaviour to something 'more'. One of the other dogs in that group is much more engaged. She's happy to just be with us, and will happily accept physical touch irrespective of whether she gets any treats or not. She gives it back too. I'm trying to convince my wife that we're building connections and that it might take some time, but she asked me today if I knew for sure that we'd one day have a lovely personable dog who wanted to be with us for our own sake, rather than for any food rewards that may be coming. And I really wasn't able to answer her, other than to say it's still very early days right now. Has anyone had any experience with this? I know every dog is unique. I've had a Samoyed cross and a German Shepherd and both of them were very present - but I had them from when they were puppies and was able to socialise them from the get go. 'M' is a lovely looking little girl. She's very soft and gentle, seems curious and I really think she's making big strides in a short time, but my wife noted that she wasn't nearly as present as the other one I mentioned and is (at this point) solely motivated by food. I don't think she's experienced much of the world.