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[fritz35]

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Fritz with dad on the couch.Sadly,this is the last picture I took of my dad and Fritz.My dad passed away in his sleep at 3:00 a.m last Tuesday March 27 from ALS(Lou Gehrig's Disease)h ehad no pain, he had just gave up didn''t want to eat,he was skin and bones.In between the week i saw him,he had gone downhill,could hardly comunicate,couldn't walk.The last day,I saw him,i got a hug from him,I said i was going to see him again,we were hoping to get him home,couldn't do it in time.Dad had gone in for an enlarged prostate on March 16,procedure was done on the 19th,doctor never did tell us the results,a nurse did, and the day before dad died the doctor walked right by mom twice and never said nothing.We are also not impressed with the discharge person ther.He said everything that could be done medically was done and he had to go to a nursing home or home.Mom said he would go home first before he went there.mom and my sister had the weekend to decide what to do and they weren't there 30 minutes and he wanted to know what they were doing,he could have waited,mom and marlene wanted to spend all the time they could with dad.Then marlene was on the phone for 90 minutes,larry her husband was too at work phoning to ge dad out.We got a hold of our family doctor and he was going to get dad here last tuesday or Wednesday,didn't work out..The hospital where dad was diagnosed is going to write a letter ,probably the doctor who originally diagnosed dad,he is not impressed with what happened.this discharge guy said there was a 8 month wait list for home help, but we knew we could get help faster if we needed it.At the visitation last Wednesday,we had a total of 223 people pay respects,we had a lot of nice flowers,pictures of dad and us that were hard to look at,Broke down when I saw them,have done a lot of that over the last week.Mom held up pretty well,Marlene broke down more.Jason and Shannon were there,their dad didn't alk to them,stayed away from them,though Marlene talked to them.Had over 50 donations ,some from ALS ,the Cancer Society,Lakeridge Health Bowmanville,Trinity United Church and the Toronto Humane Society.it will be 5 years tomorrow since Ruffles,our Miniature Poodle passed on,so dad is now with him having a good time.the service was good,Reverend said some nice things about dad,a friend of dad's for 59 years said some nice things, about how hard hard dad worked,about meeting mom, and having to get up pretty early to pull a joke on him,dad had a sense of humor to the end.said a few prayers,sangs 2 Hymns Amazing Grace and How Great Thou Art.dad's brother come with my and Aunt their 2 sons,another cousin my dad's only niece came from 5 hours away in Windsor,Ontario.Had lunch at the church after.today is the internment,the day is overcast.Hope i get through this today and things will gradually get better.Dad was cremated,it was his wish.the funeral infornation is on www.northcuttelliott.com . Click obituary notices and it is the first one . Feel free to make a donation to the ALS to help find a cure.

 

[whippetmad]

I,m very sorry to hear your sad loss,my heart goes out to you :huggles: :huggles:

 

[Lolcoe]

My deepest sympathies go to you and your family at this sad time.

It somewhat disgusts me how badly the elderly get treated in hospitals when nothing more can be done.

 

[stormydog]

IM REALLY SORRY FOR YOU LOSING YOUR DAD..THERES NO WORDS CAN HELP YOU RIGHT NOW...I KNOW MY FRIEND IVE SAMPLED THE TRAGEDY OF PARENT LOSS !

HEART FELT SYMPATHY

 

[nicky12]

sorry to hear of your sad loss my deepest sympathies go to you and your family at this sad time :huggles:

 

[hely]

I am so sorry to hear about your Dad, my thoughts are with you and your family at this sad time.

 

[trac]

my sympathies to you, have been through loosing my parents so i know what pain you are going through.keep strong and remember the good times you had:huggles:

 

[Janimal]

So very sorry to hear the sad news of your father. RIP

My thoughts go with you and your family at this sad time.

 

[~Helen~]

So sorry to hear your sad news, Barry. I know you've been worried about your Dad in the past. There's nothing anyone can say to comfort you, but I do hope you feel less sad as time goes on. Hugs to Fritz.

 

[wigglesworth]

I'm very sorry to hear of your loss. It seems like he lived a great life and will be missed :huggles:

 

[AnnSa]

Im sorry to read your post.

Its so hard to lose your dad............i know.

My thoughts are with you and your family

 

[posh totty]

so sorry to hear the news barry, may god be with you all . Our deepest sympathy to you all and little fritz x :huggles:

 

[05whippet]

I am so very sorry to hear this,my deepest sympathies go to you and your Mum and family. The death of a parent is extremely difficult to cope with as I too have experienced it,but with time you will be able to look back on your life with your Dad with fond memories and less raw pain than you feel now,until then take care of yourself and your Mum.

I hope you get some satisfaction with the hospital.

Thinking of you all. :huggles:

 

[Joanna]

So sorry

 

[k9krew]

So sorry for your loss!

Heartfelt sympathy at this sad time. cheryl.

 

[jue332]

So sorry for your loss.

 

[wild whippies]

So sorry, thinking of you and your family at this sad time.

 

[fritz35]

This is the first in a series of pictures of flowers we received and pictures of Fritz,Dad and me that my sister had framed.Fritz's Aunties were at the service,Auntie Irene doesn't look good,has a yellowish color to her,as if the cancer has spread to the liver.they just moved into a new house,we are going sometime soon to see,taking Fritz with us.I went to church with my sister Marlene yesterday,it was too soon for Mom to go.she will go next week on Easter Sunday,i am going every week now.i was Palm Sunday and kids handed out Palm Leaves to certain people,I happened to get one.Reverend Lafave mentioned dad twice during ther service,brought soem tears to me,sang hymns, got lost singing one and my sister was on the wrong page for another.At the start,they have people shaking hands with each other.had two new people join the church,had few people baptized and confirmed,passed the plate for offerings.He had little kids gather round him in front of where he would speak and told them a story.After the service had Hot Cross Buns,Danishes and Coffee.Before this,Reverend Lafave came by where I was sitting and tapped me on the shoulder.Had the internment today,sad affair,Mom cried a bit more today,so did i when i went to put a flower on the vault where dad's ashes are in.The ashes are in a wooden box which is inside a Square gold cement vault.The Reverend said some prayers one of which mom repeated word for word.My niece Shannon and Nephew Jason,also Shannon's Husband Brian,my Aunt (Mom's sister)Wilhelmenia and Uncle Everett plus two people from the funeral home.We got 15 more cards of condolence plus a donation to our church,also got a bible in a cedar box from the Canadian Auto Workers not General Motors where Dad worked for 36 years.

 

[fritz35]

Not sure what kind of flower this is ,it is not a Lilly.

 

[fritz35]

Not sure what kind of flower this is ,it is not a Lilly.