Extreme guilt

[pollyboo23]

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Please please help me. I let my beautiful little whippet go last week. She was approx 16. She was skin and bone and urinating in the house
The vet said it was possibly cancen and she was starting to get confused. When out for walks etc
I let her go and now I feel I habe done it too soon! I am a dog walker and see dogs thsr go round in nappies and have bad legs and wanted to spare her!
But could she have had another month or two even.and I have fully cut it short. I read things saying that actually skin and bone can be normal so what if it’s wasn’t cancer at all
I can’t live with myself, can’t eat or sleep and just want my dog back and feel she will hate me. Her back legs were unravel she had lost 2kg of weight in a Few weeks but had been gradual, was nearly blind and urinating in the house, but maybe she was happy.
Please help

 

[JudyN]

My heart goes out to you. It's only been a week, and even if you hadn't been worrying that you got the timing wrong, you'd still be in enormous pain. People who haven't loved and lost a dog can't understand how hard it is.

Deciding when to let your dog go is hard. But it's often said, better a week to early than a day too late. Could she have had more good days? Maybe, but chances are she would also have had more bad days. Dogs live in the here and now, they don't think in terms of days and weeks.

From what you've said I reckon you let her go at the right time. Regardless, you made the decision out of love for her and what you thought was the best for her, and that is all anyone can do.

Try to be gentle on yourself. Things will get better, I promise, though the pain never goes completely. If it helps, tell us all about her. And if you need more help, the Blue Cross have a very good bereavement advice service: Pet bereavement and pet loss

 

[Hemlock]

A lovely lovely vet once said to me: "It isn't a growing-older competition - it's about quality of life".

You did the right thing at the right time. And how it hurts! Most of us here have been through the same, often many times, and we so empathise with you. I agree with everything the others have said.

Hugs to you. It does become more manageable.

 

[Flobo]

I am so sorry for your loss... it is always the hardest of decisions and the one we may always question. But as said above, know that when we are faced with this point in our dogs life, the decision we make comes from a place of immense love and respect for our four legged companion. Please do be kind to yourself, sending hugs too x