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Goodbye Jasper

Discussion in 'General Dog Forum' started by JudyN, Apr 28, 2022.

  1. JudyN

    JudyN Moderator Moderator Registered

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    What's on the ground floor of John Lewis, RGC? I'm sure I'll need somewhere to park him at some point.
     
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    It’s the techno stuff - video, audio, computers. Boys’ toys. First floor it’s cookware. What fun.
     
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    Be careful what you wish for....

    I told Mr N that if he couldn't think of somewhere to go this weekend that he'd enjoy I'd take him shoe shopping with me...

    ... so we're going to a motorbike showroom :confused:
     
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    May you be thrice blessed.
     
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    Absolutely! Our four legged angels wouldn't want us to be miserable, they would want us all to stay strong and keep going which is why I only hang onto the happiest memories of Lady and just remember all the unconditional love she gave me :rolleyes:

    I stay strong for her and now for Rocco too.
     
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    I have CFS/ME which is a lot like Fibromyalgia so I can relate to that. When I was 13 years old, my mother and birth father separated and got divorced and at that same year a family member passed away and I was getting badly bullied at school so I developed really bad depression and then sometime at around 18 years old, I think I got a viral infection and since then I was never the same ever again. My doctor told me that I ended up with CFS/ME as it can be brought on by traumatic events and viral infections. Like Fibro though, it's a neurological illness and it cannot be cured, however it can be well managed so I use meditation/yoga, the love of Rocco, my wife and my family as well as gym work to help me stay active and to help manage my symptoms.

    Lady was a big help to me with my CFS/ME, even though she was overweight she loved her walks and was very active and I enjoyed walking her. Same with Rocco, for a 4 year old, he is just so full of energy and me and he loves his walks so I go with him on his walks and it really helps me with my mental and physical well-being.

    Jasper sounds like everyone's dream dog, inspiring, full of life, gentle, sweet and loyal. We all need a dog like Jasper! :D
     
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    Have you thought about getting a concrete dog statue as a memorial for your back garden at all? I got one for Lady in my garden to honour her memory, it may be a good idea or you can get a ceramic dog ornament as another tribute that you can keep in your lounge.

    Saying goodbye is always the hardest part but now you've done it, you can finally feel free and value the happiest memories of Jasper.

    Once again, I am always here for you if you need a friendly ear :emoji_blue_heart:
     
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    Haha, you've missed the bits where he was more the dog of your nightmares:D But I had so much help in the early days that I was able to manage all his 'little foibles' and accept him for who he was:)

    I'm sorry you have ME/CFS. My older son has it too - he developed it when he was 17 and had a bad dose of flu. I do wonder if there's a genetic link that predisposes us to ME or fibro.

    Funnily enough, Mr N and I had talked about getting a statue of a dog for the garden and I was thinking about it just yesterday - there's a metal bench at the end of the garden where I sit occasionally to think about J, and it would be lovely to have one there (as long as I didn't cry every time I saw it...:confused:). It's just a case of finding the right statue - must look vaguely like him, and not the sort of thing you could buy in any garden centre but, ideally, something reclaimed. Mind you, this has something of Jasper's look about it: https://www.pinterest.co.uk/pin/10344274130193458/
     
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    I like that statue...
     
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    Very gentle and graceful until you look at the hindleg. Which would drive me nuts every time I saw it.
     
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    We like it as it captures the essence of a whippet we had - we go for subtlety and understatement. On a pragmatic note it can always be turned around.
     

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    The important thing is that is pleases you. It doesn't have to please anyone else.
     
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    Verdad.
     
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    @Judy, my heart goes out to you. I am so sorry for your loss
     
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    Oh my goodness, I'm so very sorry to read this, and I'm also sorry that my condolences are so late. My apologies. I guessed something was amiss without the mails I get notifying me of updates to Jasper's Diary. I have tears welling up after reading the posts here, especially the first one. I hope you're both doing as well as can be expected, my best wishes to you both.

    I'm bracing myself too as Jimmy is undergoing palliative care at the moment and I'm finding that very tough.

    On a different note, I didn't know (or had forgotten) we shared another passion - motorbikes. That said, since the pandemic I fell out of love with them for some reason after about 35 years of riding and sold mine as I wasn't allowed to ride it!

    Again, sincere condolences, I know Jasper will be missed lots both at home and by everyone here.
     
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    Thank you arealhuman, and I'm so sorry Jimmy is in palliative care :emoji_blue_heart: We're doing OK, really - and I do hope that this thread might at some point help someone going through the same thing.

    There will always be 'moments', I'm sure. I had one on Saturday when we took my mum into Bristol for her cataract op - I sat in the back of the car and there's still a lot of dog hair there :confused: But I would still rather have the wonderful memories even if they do come with a degree of pain.

    Mr N still doesn't ever want to have another pet he might get attached to. Maybe a stick insect then....;)
     
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    Thanks both, didn't mean to hijack this.
     
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    Oh I know that oh too well :D
    Lady would always like to steal from people's plates, she would always drag her bum everywhere (even if her anal glands were OK and she was dewormed), she'd make awful farts and she'd bark at everything but she was a dog you'd never get tired of!

    Rocco is like a male version of Lady although he never steals food from anyone, we've trained him to never pinch food and not to beg but he will definitely stare at you :p

    Fibro and CFS/ME could be linked, there may be just a possibility, especially given the fact the symptoms are so similar. My grandmother has Fibromyalgia so I too wonder if CFS/ME and Fibro can be genetically linked or just linked in general

    The statue looks lovely :D Definitely ideal for your garden as a memorial for Jasper!
     
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