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Hi everyone,
Stanley’s always had a little guarding problem. I’ve been working on him with the “trade” concept, and he’s been making great progress... except he just growled at me.
It’s the first time he’s properly growled and snarled at me, and I was afraid to put my hands anywhere near him in case he bit. It’s never been this bad before.
The main thing is - I think - my mum’s partner has a very different approach to taking things from Stanley. He thinks Stanley should give it up straight away and if he doesn’t he gets a physical punishment. I’ve tried to explain to him that this won’t help in any way, maybe even making it worse, but he’s not very receptive to other ideas/opinions. I don’t think it’s any coincidence that when Stanley growled at me just now, it was on my Mum’s bed: the same place he last had a physical punishment from my Mum's partner.
My mum doesn’t think it’s a correlation, she thinks “he wouldn’t remember it”. I think he would. He’s NEVER been that bad with me. I think it was a combination of a valuable resource (chicken-wrapped bone) in a place related to a stressful situation in the past.
I need some proof/evidence/solid advice to tell my mum and her partner that will help them trust me when I tell them physical punishment won’t work. And I need some advice as to what to do when he really growls at me like that - even to me, rewarding him as a form of bribery to “trade” feels almost like rewarding the growling. I’ve had a behaviourist come see the dogs in the past, but he didn’t say what to do if it gets that bad, because it never has been. What should I do when it gets to that point? This time he was not given a reward and is now downstairs in his crate.
Any good advice that might help me, and help sway my mum and her partner’s opinion would be much appreciated. x
Stanley’s always had a little guarding problem. I’ve been working on him with the “trade” concept, and he’s been making great progress... except he just growled at me.
It’s the first time he’s properly growled and snarled at me, and I was afraid to put my hands anywhere near him in case he bit. It’s never been this bad before.
The main thing is - I think - my mum’s partner has a very different approach to taking things from Stanley. He thinks Stanley should give it up straight away and if he doesn’t he gets a physical punishment. I’ve tried to explain to him that this won’t help in any way, maybe even making it worse, but he’s not very receptive to other ideas/opinions. I don’t think it’s any coincidence that when Stanley growled at me just now, it was on my Mum’s bed: the same place he last had a physical punishment from my Mum's partner.
My mum doesn’t think it’s a correlation, she thinks “he wouldn’t remember it”. I think he would. He’s NEVER been that bad with me. I think it was a combination of a valuable resource (chicken-wrapped bone) in a place related to a stressful situation in the past.
I need some proof/evidence/solid advice to tell my mum and her partner that will help them trust me when I tell them physical punishment won’t work. And I need some advice as to what to do when he really growls at me like that - even to me, rewarding him as a form of bribery to “trade” feels almost like rewarding the growling. I’ve had a behaviourist come see the dogs in the past, but he didn’t say what to do if it gets that bad, because it never has been. What should I do when it gets to that point? This time he was not given a reward and is now downstairs in his crate.
Any good advice that might help me, and help sway my mum and her partner’s opinion would be much appreciated. x