How do u cope?

[marieellerton2014]

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i have to get my 14 year old baby boy put down next week. he has cancer and it just don't seem fair he was given 6 months last December and is still going he eats and drinks just not as much as he used to so he's lost weight we got him as a rescue dog 12 years ago and he was mentally not good ( he'd been hit) took us over 2 years to train him. he such a loving boy he our baby i no its for the best but i really dont want to see him go we have decided to have one last Xmas with him but its just so hard we also have 3 kids x he booked in for euthanasia on monday

 

[lurcherman]

I really do feel for you, now listen you have given him 12 good years and i know youve loved him in that time but you are doing the right thing, remember the great times the funny times that he made you laugh, my dogs will be 12 soon so its a few years more for them and i will be you, but then we move on to our next treasure but we will never forget our past dogs that served us so well..

 

[chelynnah]

Spend this week spoiling him absolutely rotten. Give him his favourite things, let him see his favourite people, have no regrets or 'I wishes' left. What a fantastic gift that you got even longer with him than forecast, but that's little consolation. We lost our girl last September, just 8 weeks before her 15th birthday and 3 weeks after a bone cancer diagnosis. I thought I would handle it ok, but it took me months to get through. Grief is grief and loss is loss. Don't let anyone tell you to 'get over it' (you never do, you go through it). The first few days it was minute by minute telling myself to breathe. It was worse than I had ever imagined (and I have lost family pets in my lifetime). This isn't to scare you but to tell you that it's absolutely OK and normal to feel the loss that deeply. You were blessed to have him in your life for 12 years. And he was blessed to have you in his. This is now the kindest thing you can do for him.

I don't know where you are, but we had these people take care of our girl after she was gone. Such compassionate, caring and personal service, I cannot recommend them highly enough http://www.petundertakers.co.uk/

We also had a memorial paperweight made to keep with her ashes from these people http://www.ashesintoglass.co.uk/product-overview.php. Again, such compassion.

There's no one set way to grieve. The only thing I would say is the best way to honour him is to get another when the time is right. You'll know when that is. As hard as it was and is (and I still grieve in some way or another even today), I cannot imagine my life without a dog (or several) in it.

Hugs to you and your kids. And spoil your lovely boy this week. Shower him with all the love you have.

Wendy

 

[marieellerton2014]

thank you so much for your replies we are going to enjoy our last xmas with him been hard day today cos he's has a good day he even played with his toys which he hasn't done in a while!! i just smiled and thought don't do this now as much as i love to see him have a good day i no it not going to last he having lots of cuddles and looks guilty (like he chew summit he no not too lol) think he knows now but i no its the right thing to do even if it breaks out hearts. in the last 12 years we have been through 4 losses and he was the 1 who comforted me that going to be the hardest thing on a bad day he's there for me

 

[marieellerton2014]

well tomorow the d dayformilojust wnated to share a pic of him with u all x

 

[chelynnah]

What a beautiful boy. I just wanted to stop in first thing and let you know we'll be thinking of you today. It will be the most difficult but also the kindest thing you will do for him.

Hugs

 

[marieellerton2014]

thanks every1for your support we took milo to vets today were they confirmed teh cancer had spread to his admomen and lungs he also had heart falure so we said goodbye forever :'( i miss him so much already

 

[chelynnah]

So sorry. What a beautiful memorial you've made for him.

 

[marieellerton2014]

thankyou i run my own page on fb x

 

[lurcherman]

R.i.p. Wee dog.