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Had Barley now for about 10 days. And as previous post has said, it has been difficult and arduous.
Today went to a whole new level.
As I said, the 'breeder' was male. Barley has bonded a lot with my OH.
But OH has to work (so do I, but that has gone awry). OH working from home upstairs. First day of this.
Barley going mental downstairs from the moment he (Barley) has got up. Zoomies, increased biting, getting into places that he didn't before (our house is almost bare now, we have done everything possible to stop this, proofed beyond proofed and he still finds a way. We might just as well get rid of all furniture and eat off the floor the way we are going. You can't have cushions or anything, its actually pretty sad. Garden is proofed too, so it now looks like a prison). When OH is in the room, Barley is soooooo much better, much calmer. Different.
The crating idea...for them to calm down gets mixed up with discipline in a way. I have crated him four times this morning because it was totally and utterly overwhelming. He is in the crate now. He was crying, now he has stopped. Finally calmer.
I don't want to have to permanently crate him though to be able to get a cup of tea, to do some work, to go to the toilet. To eat.
Its madness.
I do try with toys, with being with him, but he just goes beyond anything I can do.
I have had people tell me it is because of the breed, so intelligent and over excited. Others say it is the breeder, the way he didn't do what he should have done.
But at the end of the day, I actually don't know who could tolerate this, even if he was rehomed (somehow, and god knows how that would even work).
I had a Springer before. By the time he got to me, he'd been rehomed twice before. Because of these reasons. And he had serious SA. For 13 years, we never left him alone.
I have given up tennis that I used to do (too exhausted) drumming classes (no time to practice), the gym (too exhausted), broadcasting for radio (that I am meant to do, but how...) and other work.
I am worried genuinely that I can't tolerate this.
Forgot to add, we have spent a fortune on Barley. Puppy trainer said to get the calming collar and plug in. But when do we stop paying out like this, over and over.
Please tell me...this will get better.
Today went to a whole new level.
As I said, the 'breeder' was male. Barley has bonded a lot with my OH.
But OH has to work (so do I, but that has gone awry). OH working from home upstairs. First day of this.
Barley going mental downstairs from the moment he (Barley) has got up. Zoomies, increased biting, getting into places that he didn't before (our house is almost bare now, we have done everything possible to stop this, proofed beyond proofed and he still finds a way. We might just as well get rid of all furniture and eat off the floor the way we are going. You can't have cushions or anything, its actually pretty sad. Garden is proofed too, so it now looks like a prison). When OH is in the room, Barley is soooooo much better, much calmer. Different.
The crating idea...for them to calm down gets mixed up with discipline in a way. I have crated him four times this morning because it was totally and utterly overwhelming. He is in the crate now. He was crying, now he has stopped. Finally calmer.
I don't want to have to permanently crate him though to be able to get a cup of tea, to do some work, to go to the toilet. To eat.
Its madness.
I do try with toys, with being with him, but he just goes beyond anything I can do.
I have had people tell me it is because of the breed, so intelligent and over excited. Others say it is the breeder, the way he didn't do what he should have done.
But at the end of the day, I actually don't know who could tolerate this, even if he was rehomed (somehow, and god knows how that would even work).
I had a Springer before. By the time he got to me, he'd been rehomed twice before. Because of these reasons. And he had serious SA. For 13 years, we never left him alone.
I have given up tennis that I used to do (too exhausted) drumming classes (no time to practice), the gym (too exhausted), broadcasting for radio (that I am meant to do, but how...) and other work.
I am worried genuinely that I can't tolerate this.
Forgot to add, we have spent a fortune on Barley. Puppy trainer said to get the calming collar and plug in. But when do we stop paying out like this, over and over.
Please tell me...this will get better.