Hi guys, I need some arbitration, please. My husband and I are at loggerheads about how to raise and train our puppy (a 19 week old labrador/springer spaniel/border collie mix). The training classes we've been going to, and a dog trainer friend all advise that we should not allow behaviours that we don't want to 'imprint'. So I am trying to set quite strict boundaries, e.g. using a house lead (to prevent her biting us/our clothes, counter surfing, etc.), not allowing her on the sofa (so she doesn't start to take ownership, and to protect her joints), using a long training line in the park (so she doesn't try to 'steal' children's balls, chase joggers, and to train recall). My husband disagrees with all this. For example he lets her play with his trainers, and disagrees when I argue that this will teach her that she can play with people's shoes. He lets her chew (some of) the furniture at home and disagrees when I argue that this will lead her to chew furniture elsewhere (she does try to chew tables in the pub). He doesn't like having her on the house line either, and lets her run free, off-lead in the park, even though he's come home freaked a couple of times when she's chased a jogger, or tried to steal a child's ball or found some food and not responded to his recall. He allows her to chew wood which splinters everywhere and play with small bits of plastic that she could swallow. He sees me as wanting him to 'torture' her with restrictions. Now matter how many times I quote sources/trainers, even training he's been to with me, he reverts to following his gut feelings which are to allow her as much freedom as possible. Recently we'd made some headway training her not to go on the sofa, but then her let her go on it for a day. The next two mornings she was on the sofa and when I said 'off', and tried to pull her off with the lead, she growled at me so fiercely I had to back off. I'm getting to my wits' end. We're in the process of booking a one-to-one consultation with a dog behaviourist for £250 but what's the point if my husband won't agree with anything she says? Does anyone here think he has a point? He thinks our puppy will just learn to behave better when she matures and there's no need to act like a sergeant major now. She is, to be fair, a lovely natured dog, and well behaved most of the time. Sorry for the long rant - any advice very much appreciated!