Hello,
I’m sure this has been addressed elsewhere but I couldn’t find anything that fit our situation. I’m looking for advice or people who’ve had similar experiences and positive outcomes. Please bear with me whilst I give as full an account as possible!
Our dog is an intact male 2 year old (and 2months) golden retriever cross poodle. I feel like I’m constantly making excuses for him (and us) and explaining that he is a lovely dog really and that we have sought training advice and socialisation from day one of having him etc. (all true) but the long and short of it is that he is too unpredictable with other dogs: extremely reactive on his lead and sometimes a massive bully when off, and we don’t know what to do about him. As I mentioned we have sought professional help on several occasions but it proved extremely expensive and seemingly not very effective. I am almost nine months pregnant and so my partner does all walks currently, due to the extent of his reactivity and lunging.
The on-lead reactivity has been an issue for about a year, and it was always a relief to get him to the park and allow him off-lead where we could trust he was able to ignore dogs if necessary or to greet dogs happily. However for the past few months he’s steadily become less trustworthy here too. He’s had several bad experiences where he has been the victim of chasing and snarling but I don’t believe that this has necessarily shaped his behaviour, I think it’s a mixture of different learned and reinforced behaviours. He sometimes takes a disliking to another dog for reasons that aren’t always visible to us - it seems to be the younger and more subservient they are, the more he thinks he can pick on them? If they come running over to him and roll on their backs, he give them a hard time. If they run away from him, he chases them. And it’s not just a quick “stay away”, it’s a “stay away and actually I’m going to teach you a lesson whilst I’m at it”. If they stare at him, or they ignore him - he leaves them be and potters along minding his own business. But surely this MO doesn’t fit with the on-lead aggression which suggests he is anxious of seeing other dogs? This seems more like dominance bullying? Now we are faced with keeping him on-lead at all times and having a stressful walk (avoiding coming close to other dogs and rewarding as much as possible until a reaction) or letting him off and not being entirely sure he won’t have a bark and chase of another dog (I’d say this has crept up to maybe 10% of interactions - too many, I know). I want to mention that this behaviour has only ever extended to chasing, barking and snarling. He has never bitten, but I am fully aware that this doesn’t mean it will never happen and desperately don’t want this to be the case.
I hope you can tell from this that we are not just irresponsible or ignorant dog-owners; we have done our research and worked hard but genuinely are stumped with how to proceed. As I mentioned we have a baby on the way very soon and all I want to do is to be able to take my dog out for a walk without coming home almost in tears.
Apologies if this message has gone on a bit. I would be so grateful to hear back from anyone who is able to offer words of wisdom.
Thank you in advance.
I’m sure this has been addressed elsewhere but I couldn’t find anything that fit our situation. I’m looking for advice or people who’ve had similar experiences and positive outcomes. Please bear with me whilst I give as full an account as possible!
Our dog is an intact male 2 year old (and 2months) golden retriever cross poodle. I feel like I’m constantly making excuses for him (and us) and explaining that he is a lovely dog really and that we have sought training advice and socialisation from day one of having him etc. (all true) but the long and short of it is that he is too unpredictable with other dogs: extremely reactive on his lead and sometimes a massive bully when off, and we don’t know what to do about him. As I mentioned we have sought professional help on several occasions but it proved extremely expensive and seemingly not very effective. I am almost nine months pregnant and so my partner does all walks currently, due to the extent of his reactivity and lunging.
The on-lead reactivity has been an issue for about a year, and it was always a relief to get him to the park and allow him off-lead where we could trust he was able to ignore dogs if necessary or to greet dogs happily. However for the past few months he’s steadily become less trustworthy here too. He’s had several bad experiences where he has been the victim of chasing and snarling but I don’t believe that this has necessarily shaped his behaviour, I think it’s a mixture of different learned and reinforced behaviours. He sometimes takes a disliking to another dog for reasons that aren’t always visible to us - it seems to be the younger and more subservient they are, the more he thinks he can pick on them? If they come running over to him and roll on their backs, he give them a hard time. If they run away from him, he chases them. And it’s not just a quick “stay away”, it’s a “stay away and actually I’m going to teach you a lesson whilst I’m at it”. If they stare at him, or they ignore him - he leaves them be and potters along minding his own business. But surely this MO doesn’t fit with the on-lead aggression which suggests he is anxious of seeing other dogs? This seems more like dominance bullying? Now we are faced with keeping him on-lead at all times and having a stressful walk (avoiding coming close to other dogs and rewarding as much as possible until a reaction) or letting him off and not being entirely sure he won’t have a bark and chase of another dog (I’d say this has crept up to maybe 10% of interactions - too many, I know). I want to mention that this behaviour has only ever extended to chasing, barking and snarling. He has never bitten, but I am fully aware that this doesn’t mean it will never happen and desperately don’t want this to be the case.
I hope you can tell from this that we are not just irresponsible or ignorant dog-owners; we have done our research and worked hard but genuinely are stumped with how to proceed. As I mentioned we have a baby on the way very soon and all I want to do is to be able to take my dog out for a walk without coming home almost in tears.
Apologies if this message has gone on a bit. I would be so grateful to hear back from anyone who is able to offer words of wisdom.
Thank you in advance.