So Sad

[midlanderkeith]

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Some of you may remember my postings about my brother inlaw, drink related problems, well once again he was rushed into hospital yesterday morning, and hes still there, at the age of 54 weighing a mere 7 and a half stone, hes now confined to a wheelchair, many a year ago i could have followed him down the road of alcolhism but chose not to, and we parted company, at the moment he has two lumps either side of his neck, and finding it hard to swallow, so now for the sake of my lady my life yet again is on hold, ive not been out with my dogs sin Sunday, Ruth is up the hospital now with him, as for me over the years its taken him all his time to give me the time of day, but still he knows im there for him, ive made that clear, am i a goody goody, no not at all, have i turned my back on him, not at all, am i a decent human being, yes id like to think so, i remember the days when he was a fit and healthy man, but now, you would really have to see him to believe the mess hes in, im looking through my bedroom window as i type this, at the lovely sunny day, and thank god i didnt go down the road of drink, and that despite a touch of arthritus, im still fit and capable of walking EnGLANDS GREEN AND PLEASANT LAND

:cheers:

 

[posh totty]

i agree keith , when someone decides drink is the most important thing then you have to take a step back for your own sake we have many things to be grateful for when seeing how anothers life is wrecked , so sorry to hear you are going through it again , keep your chin up , many friends are here to help you with the load :huggles:

 

[Trish]

i too will say chin up lad,life does deal us plenty of worrys doesnt it,but think them worrys make us a stronger person :huggles: and you must have had your share cause you come across so strong keith :huggles:

thinking of you all at this difficult time :huggles:

 

[AnnSa]

It's a funny thing when your a drinker.............

Some get so far down that road then someone/something

makes then turn their lives around.

But some just get so far down there is no helping them

 

I work in a shop and very often in the morning i have a

little row of them waiting for it to hit 8 o'clock so they

can buy their Cider or whatever.

 

When i walk the girls i always have a quick chat with two

of them that live on the beach the weird thing is when i

walk away they never fail to say 'take care'..........yet

they are sitting there slowly killing themselves.....talk

about a funny old world

 

[hely]

so sad, hope things get better for him keithy, we had a family member much the same, its awful to see loved ones put themselves through this, not always alot you can do to help

:huggles: :huggles: :huggles:

 

[~Sarah~]

It is so sad Keith - drink can be a terrible thing. Not only does it affect the alcoholic's life , but the family and friends around them. Really feel for you and your good lady. :huggles:

 

[littlenell]

Thinking of you and Ruth Keith, I have lost a couple of relatives to drink and my first husband was a drinker too. People just dont think of it as doing them any harm. I wish your brother in law well. :luck:

 

[agilityjunkie2]

I hope gets well soon. I bet he apriciates ALL you have for him

 

[midlanderkeith]

It's a funny thing when your a drinker.............Some get so far down that road  then someone/something

makes then turn their lives around.

But some just get so far down there is no helping them 

 

I work in a shop and very often in the morning i have a

little row of them waiting for it to hit 8 o'clock so they

can buy their Cider or whatever.

 

When i walk the girls i always have a quick chat with two

of them that live on the beach the weird thing is when i

walk away they never fail to say 'take care'..........yet

they are sitting there slowly killing themselves.....talk

about a funny old world

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I wouldnt call it a funny old world my friend, i deem it as sad, and i bet its the highlight of there day having a chat with you, and when they say take care, they mean it, cos they have hit rock bottom for one reason or another, as for rock bottom, ive been there many a time, my worst was 27 years ago waking up xmas to find my dear wife, in her mid 30s, dead at my side, having lost 4 other members of my family, that was enough for me, so once id got the kids off to school, and yes most selfish of me, out came the wifes knitting needle, i searched for the beams in the living room ceiling, then i strung myself up and with no hesitation i jumped, and heres were i can laugh, down came the ceiling on top of me, and i sat there for ages crying, and so here i am today having outlived all of my family, i sometimes think i havent the right to be here, never the less i am, and whats more having done my bit for family and friends, and being blessed with a fantastic sense of humour, here i am, just an ordinary bloke going down the path of life, and i love it.

Now certain folks may read this and think im a sympath joe, an attention seeker, not at all im just stating my facts of life, and will end with this, we have but one life

LIVE IT cos i do but not at the expense of others.

keith xxxx

 

[littlenell]

Im glad the ceiling came down, the world would have been a poorer place without you :thumbsup:

 

[June Jonigk]

Thank goodness for that crappy old ceiling :lol: What would we do without you - I look forward to your posts, and what you and Jilly have been up to on your travels. You are one of lifes good people, and we on K9 are richer for having got to know you.

Hope things turn out OK for your brother in law, but having seen the way drink affects people, he sounds like he has gone too far for recovery, - you can only hope that the end isn't too far away, and will be a way out for him - although hard for those around him.

Keep smiling you lovely man :huggles:

 

[AnnSa]

Bloody hell Keith what a tale..........i've pm'd my reply to it :huggles:

 

[Ann Glews]

So sad Keith, keep your chin up :thumbsup:

The world is a better place with the likes of you :huggles:

 

[Flowerpot]

Oh Keith...I cried reading this. I lost a really good friend a few years ago through drinking. She was only 42 years old. It broke my heart ! Her husband and family all of us...We all tried our best to help to no avail....If alcohol gets hold it is a dreadful thing ....please anyone with even the slightest problem..Please get help..It is out there for you.

I am just so sad reading this.....keith, you`ve done great to keep going the way you have ....Your lady should be very proud of you. :huggles: keep going !!!

 

[jinnyfizz]

No words can help but my thoughts are with you, Ruth and your brother-in-law :luck:

I too have watched my younger sister gradually deteriorate over the years because of alcohol - once a beautiful girl and now an empty shell of paranoia and depression

I wish I could turn the clock back for us all x

 

[Angel44]

So sad Keith, keep your chin up :thumbsup:
The world is a better place with the likes of you :huggles:

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I agree xx

 

[midlanderkeith]

Some of you may remember my postings about my brother inlaw, drink related problems, well once again he was rushed into hospital yesterday morning, and hes still there, at the age of 54 weighing a mere 7 and a half stone, hes now confined to a wheelchair, many a year ago i could have followed him down the road of alcolhism but chose not to, and we parted company, at the moment he has two lumps either side of his neck, and finding it hard to swallow, so now for the sake of my lady my life yet again is on hold, ive not been out with my dogs sin Sunday, Ruth is up the hospital now with him, as for me over the years its taken him all his time to give me the time of day, but still he knows im there for him, ive made that clear, am i a goody goody, no not at all, have i turned my back on him, not at all, am i a decent human being, yes id like to think so, i remember the days when he was a fit and healthy man, but now, you would really have to see him to believe the mess hes in, im looking through my bedroom window as i type this, at the lovely sunny day, and thank god i didnt go down the road of drink, and that despite a touch of arthritus, im still fit and capable of walking EnGLANDS GREEN AND PLEASANT LAND                                  :cheers:

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Well we have just received awful news, he's still in hospital and unlikely ever to come out, he is riddled with cancer, aged 54, so yet another of my family taken away from us with this terrible disease, Ruthy is in tears and so am i, i feel awfully sorry for her brother and for Ruthy, if she's upset then so am i, anmd im in feckin tears to, am i feeling sorry for myself this time yes i feckin well am, ive had enough of losing loved ones, now can u understand why i av the feeling that i shouldnt be around, can u understand where im coming from, i havent enough fingers on either hands to count the loved ones thats gone, :rant: :rant: :rant:

 

[posh totty]

keith , whilst you are feeling so low , look around you , re read pm`s and think again , you are thought so much of by some many on this board , some of us regard you as family and we are here for 24/7 :huggles:

friends are the angels we can see :huggles:

so sorry to hear your news

 

[June Jonigk]

Keith that is sad, and I'm so sorry for you and Ruthy Please don't let this get you down too much - you know we on K9 are thinking of you. Keep your chin up my friend :huggles: You have a difficult time ahead, so don't forget where your friends are :huggles: :huggles: :huggles:

 

[AnnSa]

That's so sad Keith