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Hello,
I'd like to get some advice. My partner - let's call him John - has looked after a wonderful pug - let's call her Daisy - for nearly 2 years. Daisy previously belonged to his now 10 year old niece - let's call her Jennifer - and Daisy was originally given to her as a birthday present by her dad. Jennifer's mum and dad are not together but Jennifer resides with her mother - let's call her Sandy - and Daisy originally lived with Sandy and Jennifer (and another baby/toddler) for the first 2.5 years of her life.
It came to a point where Sandy could no longer look after Daisy and was going to give her away, but then John stepped in and took Daisy under his wing.
John and Sandy do not see eye to eye and have a very rocky relationship. It's been a terrible start to the year for them both and now Sandy is demanding to have Daisy back.
However...
1. Sandy has a history of giving away pets. Daisy is the second dog she has given up on and some cats in the past as well, I think about two. If Sandy gets her back, what's to say she won't give up on her again?
2. When Daisy was under Sandy's care, she was not fed a proper diet and was rarely taken out for walks which in turn caused her to be overweight (there is photographic evidence of this). Sandy has admitted that both her children fed Daisy anything and everything - including chocolate. When John confronted her about this Sandy's response was "well I can't keep an eye on them all the time". Which fine, you can't, but as a parent who is responsible for two children and a dog surely it's her duty to make sure she teaches her children how to treat pets!
3. In the 2.5 years Sandy had Daisy she only took her to the vet once, and Daisy's microchip is registered to an address Sandy no longer lives at. John has asked for the official paperwork to be done so that Daisy could be 100% signed over to him but Sandy has not done so, and so we are of the impression that we are unable to change her microchip details without this.
4. Daisy is a pug, and I believe Sandy has done no research on how to look after a pug as the walking equipment she bought for Dolly was a buckle collar and a lead, rather than a clasp collar and a harness, which we still have but obviously do not use (John has bought her a harness and I bought her a clasp collar).
5. John asked Sandy to pay back some money she borrowed from him. She went off the radar for 9 whole months - not a single text asking how Daisy was, if the children could come over and see her etc. This has left me to think that Daisy was easily forgotten about and she has no love nor care for her either, just when it suits.
5. Sandy has never contributed to the upkeep of Daisy; she has not paid towards any of her vet bills or food.
6. John and I recently went away for the weekend and so Sandy looked after Daisy for a few days. When Daisy returned she was smelly, ill and went off her food - even sick a number of times - and John had to take her to to vet a week later when she did not improve after being fed soft food from the vets designed to help with the digestive system. Daisy received an anti-inflammatory and anti-sickness injection. Whether Daisy was fed something she shouldn't have eaten round Sandy's I don't know, but it seems very coincidental especially given Sandy's earlier comments regarding food.
7. Also, when Daisy was under Sandy's care, Daisy was always put in a cage when no-one was in the house and also went to bed in the cage too, so she doesn't always have a lot of freedom.
We understand Sandy/Jennifer are technically Daisy's owners but Daisy has lived with John for nearly 2 years, she has lost weight and is now a healthy size, she's fed a proper and regular diet and taken out for walks, has the right walking equipment, is taken to the vets whenever she needs to go, John and I have paid for toys/jumpers for the winter/bedding, has baths when she needs them, and there is always someone around to look after her. John has never stopped Jennifer from seeing Daisy either and he has told Sandy that Jennifer is welcome to visit Daisy whenever she likes, but no arrangements have ever been made. Daisy has a much better quality of life under John's care but apparently Sandy is threatening to go legal. Given the above, what chance does John have of keeping her?
Thanks for reading, your honesty is very important!
I'd like to get some advice. My partner - let's call him John - has looked after a wonderful pug - let's call her Daisy - for nearly 2 years. Daisy previously belonged to his now 10 year old niece - let's call her Jennifer - and Daisy was originally given to her as a birthday present by her dad. Jennifer's mum and dad are not together but Jennifer resides with her mother - let's call her Sandy - and Daisy originally lived with Sandy and Jennifer (and another baby/toddler) for the first 2.5 years of her life.
It came to a point where Sandy could no longer look after Daisy and was going to give her away, but then John stepped in and took Daisy under his wing.
John and Sandy do not see eye to eye and have a very rocky relationship. It's been a terrible start to the year for them both and now Sandy is demanding to have Daisy back.
However...
1. Sandy has a history of giving away pets. Daisy is the second dog she has given up on and some cats in the past as well, I think about two. If Sandy gets her back, what's to say she won't give up on her again?
2. When Daisy was under Sandy's care, she was not fed a proper diet and was rarely taken out for walks which in turn caused her to be overweight (there is photographic evidence of this). Sandy has admitted that both her children fed Daisy anything and everything - including chocolate. When John confronted her about this Sandy's response was "well I can't keep an eye on them all the time". Which fine, you can't, but as a parent who is responsible for two children and a dog surely it's her duty to make sure she teaches her children how to treat pets!
3. In the 2.5 years Sandy had Daisy she only took her to the vet once, and Daisy's microchip is registered to an address Sandy no longer lives at. John has asked for the official paperwork to be done so that Daisy could be 100% signed over to him but Sandy has not done so, and so we are of the impression that we are unable to change her microchip details without this.
4. Daisy is a pug, and I believe Sandy has done no research on how to look after a pug as the walking equipment she bought for Dolly was a buckle collar and a lead, rather than a clasp collar and a harness, which we still have but obviously do not use (John has bought her a harness and I bought her a clasp collar).
5. John asked Sandy to pay back some money she borrowed from him. She went off the radar for 9 whole months - not a single text asking how Daisy was, if the children could come over and see her etc. This has left me to think that Daisy was easily forgotten about and she has no love nor care for her either, just when it suits.
5. Sandy has never contributed to the upkeep of Daisy; she has not paid towards any of her vet bills or food.
6. John and I recently went away for the weekend and so Sandy looked after Daisy for a few days. When Daisy returned she was smelly, ill and went off her food - even sick a number of times - and John had to take her to to vet a week later when she did not improve after being fed soft food from the vets designed to help with the digestive system. Daisy received an anti-inflammatory and anti-sickness injection. Whether Daisy was fed something she shouldn't have eaten round Sandy's I don't know, but it seems very coincidental especially given Sandy's earlier comments regarding food.
7. Also, when Daisy was under Sandy's care, Daisy was always put in a cage when no-one was in the house and also went to bed in the cage too, so she doesn't always have a lot of freedom.
We understand Sandy/Jennifer are technically Daisy's owners but Daisy has lived with John for nearly 2 years, she has lost weight and is now a healthy size, she's fed a proper and regular diet and taken out for walks, has the right walking equipment, is taken to the vets whenever she needs to go, John and I have paid for toys/jumpers for the winter/bedding, has baths when she needs them, and there is always someone around to look after her. John has never stopped Jennifer from seeing Daisy either and he has told Sandy that Jennifer is welcome to visit Daisy whenever she likes, but no arrangements have ever been made. Daisy has a much better quality of life under John's care but apparently Sandy is threatening to go legal. Given the above, what chance does John have of keeping her?
Thanks for reading, your honesty is very important!
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